Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Wanna Cry Like A Baby?


Miss Cataleya is back in the hospital. High fever, trouble breathing, abdominal pain, and constipation have had us here since Sunday. She's feeling better, but we're not quite sure what's going on. She had an intussusception where one part of her intestine got slipped inside another part. It resolved on it's own, but was very painful in the moment. It doesn't explain her need for oxygen after being off for a week or the fever. She seems to be feeling better now although they haven't actually done anything to help her.

Cat did 2 hours off oxygen today
 

I have been all over these doctors to investigate further and get a solid answer about her lungs. So far they have been happy just explaining her need for oxygen with, "She has so many health issues, so she susceptible to respiratory illness.". It's not good enough anymore. What respiratory illness does she have? This has nothing to do with her heart. She was home 3 months with no need for oxygen before all this and her heart was just as sick then. We'll get answers eventually because I'll continue to push.

I think the answers and testing I want can be done outpatient, so hopefully we can go home tomorrow.

We got a $16,000 bill from the hospital in the mail. I was so thankful to just be able to forward that baby right on to Medicaid. I don't know how families with sick kids get by with just private insurance. Our state is pretty good at getting kids set up on Medicaid waivers and similar programs but other states provide very little assistance to babies like Cataleya.

I'm on some adoption facebook pages and an online forum of adoptive parents from the agency who matched us with Cataleya. Today they posted 2 new television shows about adoption. I watched them both today while Cat napped in the hospital and I cried like a baby all the way through. I hate the money machine side of adoption, but my heart beats for the people side of adoption. You should totally watch them and give in to your best ugly cry too:

I'm having their baby

The Baby Wait

They both feature the agency of disappointment, so I did some boo-ing and hissing. I'm interested at how my terrible experience lines up with so many of the other reviews and ratings I see online, but clashes with people's first impression of the organization. Maybe it's because they seem to market themselves in every television show concerning adoption? Treating families like garbage, but getting on MTV is clearly a strategy that's working for them.

Aside from that, I thought these shows did a good job portraying the intensity of emotions in adoption. I liked that they respected the love and bond Mothers who choose adoption do have to their babies. Children who are adopted weren't unwanted. The open adoptions that the episodes depict made me a little sad about our own closed adoption.

2 comments:

  1. I just watched both shows. I thought they were excellen. Thank you for sharing..

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  2. Found your blog via Journey to Josie. Will definitely be checking in regularly to see how Miss Cataleya is doing. She is such a sweet girl and you are such an awesome mom. Sending many warm thoughts your way...

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